If someone were to ask me who my role model was, it would be to all the women who go through tough times, but find the strength to carry on regardless. Equally, I admire ones who admit to struggling and don’t know if they can carry on, because they are the most brave for admitting that and don’t always know how strong they really are. We all find ourselves in hard stages at some point in our lives, but I find that as long as you have true family and friends around, you can get through anything life throws at you. I am stating the obvious, but it is true. I ended up at rock bottom, raising two daughters, and am slowly building my life back up bit by bit and there is nothing more empowering than being an independent women. It’s Isabelle and Alina (Isalina) who have given me the strength to do this and at least I can say I did it all by myself. I am now at a place in my life where I know what I want and to always trust my gut instincts when something doesn’t feel right, because it usually follows through with what I know already or when circumstances just don’t feel right and it’s not so easy to ignore. Standing up for myself can be a challenge at times, but I am getting better at that. There are still bad days but I focus on the good days and that is the same for everyone. I’m not perfect, but I like to think I learn from mistakes and it makes me wiser. I know there is a craze out there on self love and self care, but I am believer in that, because if you can’t look after yourself properly then you can’t look after anyone else either.
Be the woman that fixes another woman’s crown, without telling the world it was crooked 👑👸🏼
Remember, there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. You could be in a crowded room and feel totally isolated and lonely, or sat in your house alone and not feeling lonely at all. Change only occurs when you make it happen. Take one day at a time, but every small step leads to a better, happier, healthier you. It doesn’t happen over night but small changes lead to big changes eventually and when you’re at your happiest, that is when you attract positivity. Negative energy attracts negativity. Therefore, if negative happenings start rearing its ugly head in my life, I either address the situation as diplomatic and as minimal as possible, or simply ignore and carry on with my day. In fact, I came across a post last night that I found quite funny. “I’m at that stage of my life where I keep myself out of arguments even if you tell me 1+1=5 you’re absolutely correct, enjoy!”
I’m at that stage of my life where I keep myself out of arguments even if you tell me 1+1=5 you’re absolutely correct, enjoy!
My mum, daughters and friends inspire me to do what I am doing and I intend on being a good role model for my girls to look up to. There are times when Isabelle leaves me notes of kind words out of the blue and she says some very encouraging and nice things to me, that I think for a seven year old to say is very grown up. Alina said to me the other night “mummy… you’re my treasure!” I sometimes read a book on treasure not being gold or silver, but someone or something you love that is your treasure. We didn’t even read that book that night, nor is little treasure something we say to each other. It shows she has understood the meaning behind what the book is trying to imply. These are the girls I am raising, who I am very proud of, because of the way they are turning out to be.
Here’s to good women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.
I am dedicating this post to my mum, daughters and friends who inspire me each and every day. Thank you! #internationalwomensday xxxx